Do you want to know how long it will take or how many tries it takes for someone to get into recovery from an addiction and continue to stay sober? Well, it takes as long as it does and as many tries as it takes. Every individual’s journey is different when it comes to sobriety. We all have to be careful not to try to put anyone in a box, including ourselves if we are the ones in recovery. If we compare ourselves to other people, we are bound to be disappointed in one way or another.
I know from personal experience that this is a hard thing to do. The minute I stopped using, I expected way too much from myself. I expected to be where other people were in their recovery that had been sober for several years. It took me several tries to stay sober and this may be a small part of the reason. It is difficult not to get discouraged in the beginning of sobriety, or during any part of sobriety, for that matter. You want to be farther than you are, or better than you are or to move faster than you are. It is difficult for us to develop patience. I think part of this difficulty comes from those around us. Our friends and family want and sometimes expect a miracle, too. They expect that we will recover completely almost over night and if we don’t, anger and sadness can sometimes arise. It seems easy then for us to expect the same from ourselves. I believe that it is important for everyone involved, the recovering addict and anyone around them, to understand that this is a process. Try to think about how long it took for things to get as bad as they did. Well, it will take a while to get better, too.
“I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.” ~Thomas Edison